A LOOK INTO A SCATTERBRAIN: Thirteen Years Later

My how time flys by!! Today is our 13th Wedding Anniversary!! Sadly he is on the road & won't be home until late tonight so it's been rather frumpy froggish around here. But on the upside....WOW!!! 13 YEARS!!!!

I can't even begin to tell you how much I love this man!! He's my best friend, my partner in crime, my lover, my comedian, and he just flippen rocks!!!

In March of 1994 I met my Ken. I was down by the beach sitting in my car with my lil brother contemplating life. I had just gotten out of a not too swell relationship with a ral wank of a guy. The beach was just one of the few places I could go to think & try to regain my old self back after wank butt destroyed my happiness, my self worth, esteem. Put it this way... I was a mess!

A pickup truck beeped it's airhorn at me & the passenger was waving...now who in the heck could it be!! This was an OLD OLD Chevy stepside pickup painted primer gray...and it had bullet holes in it!! It pulled along side of my car & it was my friend Scott who was in the passenger seat & some other guy was the driver. I knew Scott through my wank of a bf only because wank & I would stand in the hall before class & Scott had a broken foot & he'd sneak up on us.

Anyways...Scot & myself talked a bit & he asked how I was & all that jazz. He went on & on about if I'd ever date anybody...to which I said NO!! I needed a long break from dating. Well this persisted & I said "fine!~ if the guy likes Davey Allison I'll give him a shot" Little did I know but the driver of the truck was wearing a Davey Allison ball cap!! Now, keep in mind, back in 94 NASCAR racing was not as popular as it is now a days. So with that Scott introduced me to Ken & we decided to go for a ride in my car & I showed them how my good ole' 4 door Buick century could smoke it's wheels!! OH gawd! I was a nerd!! Oh, I should also mention...I was wearing purple sweatpants & a Charlotte Hornets t-shirt! Yeah, not what most people would like to meet their future husband in!! Oh, and I had no makeup on & a mouth full of metal!! Yup...very HOT!!!! NOT!!! So after our ride I took them back to the creepy bullet hole truck.

Ken & my friendship kept on through the months. It was mostly a 'hello, how are you' type thing in the halls. I started dating a good friend of mine & went to my Senior prom with Pat. A couple days after Prom we broke up. We were just meant to be friends. Well with Scott knowing I was 'available' again he put the pressure on & I jokingly said "sure, I'll go with Woodbury" Well Scott marched right into Ken's math class & asked him if he'd date Pepin & Ken apparently said yes because Scott met up with me as I was walking to my class & informed me I was now dating Ken!!! YIKES!!! I barely knew Ken & we were dating?? what the!!!!!

It took us 2 weeks of 'dating' before we actually went on a date!! It was Ken's 17th birthday dinner at Crispignas with his whole entire family where our 1st date occurred!! Ok, most couples do something on their own before they are introduced to the family...yeah, not us...we never do things how they 'are usually done' The date went well & I silenced Ken's dad when he asked how many siblings I have....I have to count on my fingers & toes how many I have. NOOOO I did not take my shoes off but I did have to count on my fingers.

That summer I broke up with Ken a couple times. He was entirely too good to be true. Judging from my previous relationships this whole happy time doesn't last long & before you know it you are being controlled & all that other un-fancy stuff. During this 'break-up' we still hung out every day...but we said we were not dating...which is soo silly!!! Of course we were still dating!!! LOL

Now, not that anybody needs to know this...but I must say, it took us 9 months to kiss more than a peck & we did not participate in sex. I found out that Ken was in this for real. He was not just another guy wanting sex & all that other crap. We spent months & months building our relationship. One of complete honesty, trust & love. I can't even tell you how important this was. Because when times get rough we always have our friendship & that base of trust we built before we jumped in the bed so to speak.

In March of 95 we rented our 1st apartment. And on August 5th we found out we were expecting a lil baby!! We were so excited!!! We knew what we were doing when we did it...even though we were not married. I know that does not sit well with everyone & is not recommended at all. Well, the pregnancy failed & on August 23rd, 2 days before my 20th birthday, we lost "Angel" due to an ectopic pregnancy. It was a lot to digest & deal with & I am so thankful for that foundation Ken & I built.

In December of 95 we needed to get out of town & we moved to Green Bay, WI. My ex was up to his wankish behavior again & his buddies would try to run over Ken as he walked in school. The harassment was out of this galaxy & we thought a move would be the best thing. So, Ken dropped out of school &away we went. I know, not advisable to drop out. I always said I'd never date a drop-out...

During our stay in Green Bay we decided we'd move up our July 20th wedding to March 23rd, 1996. We always do things on a whim so to us totally uprooting our wedding plans & allotting a month before our wedding day was not even thought of as being odd. I told ya we don't do things by the book!!

Our wedding day came. We rented the VFW Hall, a place my parents frequented. It was not my 'dream' wedding but all that mattered was that I was marrying my best friend. Man, he's fantastic!! The hall was packed with friends & family & Scott, the same guy who got ken & I together was our best man. We were both minors at the time. I was 20 & Ken was 18 so we weren't drinking. Plus I still had a fair share of tummy issues from after my surgery going on so I sipped juice =)

The years have had it's ups & downs...we bought our 1st home in 96, lost our baby "Alex" on August 31, 1997, we've dealt with knowing we will never bear children as we had always hoped, jobs were had, jobs were lost, we lost our home & everything, lived in a camper for 3 years, we've traveled by semi to the 48 continental United States & many Providences in Canada, watched many a sunset, even stood on the Great Salt Lake & watch the sun set on the horizon, we've hiked, and biked & roller bladed to do out laundry, we've adopted 5 dogs & numerous cats, friends & family have died, we celebrated our 10yr wedding anniversary by renting the same hall we were married in & threw one heck of a funtastical party!!! The ones closest to us were there & made the day so special. We've gone from having nothing & bought another home, we still continue to truck all over the place in our semi, we've had 3 adoptions go bad & we are still madly deeply in love.

I can't even sum into words what my husband means to me. Just the word Ken brings a smile to my face. He's shy around most people but I can assure you he's the biggest asshat I know & has me bustin a gut on a daily basis! He knows how to hold me when I am sad & knows when I need to be put in my place & check my attitude. Yup...I admit it, I've got an attitude and am not always a walk in the park. He takes care of me when I am sick, inspires me to believe in my dreams, and myself & makes me want to be the very best I can be. He has calmed me down so much. He's the ying to my yang so to speak. He is the part of me that was missing...even before I knew something was missing. Here's to many more ultra fantabulastic years with my most amazing man! My we live to be 150 & still be the same madly in love kids we have always been & continue to be!!!!

1 comment:

Tami said...: Hey there!!!

A big belated Happy Anniversary to you too!!! Been out of the loop this week...had classes to attend with Earl for the Navy everyday it was a little overload then again it was a lot overload!

Loved your story about your marriage!! It is truly a blessing to have such wonderful husbands as we do!! I share in your pain of not having children too!

Have a wonderful week!
Hugs~T; March 29, 2009 at 8:40 PM